t4tgay:

years ago i remember reading this “how to pass as an ftm” guide online where the guy writing it said smthn along the lines of like “if you’re pre t and youre fat you’ll never pass” and that has always stuck with me. i thought about it for years, i repeated it to myself in the mirror, it was what echoed in my head when i went through eating disorder recovery. the fatphobia that comes from cis expectations of what we need to look like and from within the trans community itself is unacceptable. not only was that like completely not true but things like that (which i Know we’ve all heard) stick with trans men forever. trans men are systemically controlled by fatphobia too. we have surgeons who hold arbitrary BMIs over our heads for surgeries, telling us they Cannot give us  treatment because they DONT KNOW HOW to operate on fat bodies. trans men have high rates of eating disorders, and we know why. its because of systemic fatphobia and transphobia (and lots of other systemic issues). its not okay and it needs to stop. fat trans men don’t need to lose weight to “be men” they don’t need to lose weight to transition they don’t need to lose weight for any external or arbitrary reason. fat trans men need support and love and to know that there is nothing wrong with being fat and trans.